Her Cheating Heart
When you add up all the reasons women cheat, it’s usually her heart (or her ego) that needs healing, not her libido. Keep the lines of communication open, be supportive and encouraging and work at keeping that spark ignited. Don’t give her a reason to stray.
Although women haven’t surpassed men on the cheating scale, more married women than ever before are jumping in the sack with someone other than their husbands. Im not saying that anyone should ever cheat but heres the top 10 reasons why us women look for love in all the wrong places!
Not Enough Sex
Remember the good old days when you could stay up forever fooling around?Then responsibility entered the mix and before you knew it, sleep was more important than sex. Well, women want to feel wanted. If you’re not making her feel that way, she could seek it elsewhere. To keep that spark alive, ask her out on date nights, send her provocative e-mails at lunch, and by all means, don’t let life get in the way of kissing, cuddling and sex.
Being The Bad Girl
Just as men feel the urge to sow their wild oats, some women have an inner sex kitten just waiting to be unleashed — and when the beast escapes from the cage, look out. This frisky behavior usually rears its ugly head in response to some sort of life change — major weight loss, new job, new friends, mid-life crisis, etc. Keep the lines of communication open and we’ll be more likely to talk to you about what’s going on instead of spilling her guts to a stranger in the night.
Sex can be an instant pick-me-up; a self-esteem booster that makes women feel sexier, more beautiful and more loved. If your wife or girlfriend has self-esteem issues, it doesn’t mean she’s automatically going to cheat — and it’s certainly not your fault if she does — but there are ways to make her feel secure in the relationship that could help her from straying. Pay attention to her, ask her questions and don’t hold back on compliments — a little flattery goes a long way with women.
Revenge/Payback For Past Wrongs
No, you didn’t cheat, but whether you blew your retirement fund in Vegas or got caught in a big lie, you did break her trust (and, possibly, her heart). She feels wounded and betrayed — and wants to hurt you the same way you hurt her. To regain her trust, it’s not enough just to tell her you’re sorry; you have to show her. Actions speak louder than words
Lack Of Intimacy
You have it all: the house, the two-car garage and the two-and-a-half bathrooms — at least on the outside. But inside, the relationship is lacking the one thing women want most: intimacy. It’s not just sex that makes women feel connected in a relationship; it’s touching, kissing, cuddling, and communicating. Women crave it, and she could seek it elsewhere if she’s not getting it at home. To improve intimacy, spend quality time together, give her a foot massage, make a romantic dinner for two — anything that will give her a sense of unity and closeness.
A few more warning signs and reasons women cheat…
Women wear many hats in a relationship — housekeeper, errand-runner, grocery shopper, babysitter, etc. When she feels more like a maid than a girlfriend/wife, that’s when she could stray. The fact that you spend all your time at work or on the golf course gives her double reason to seek attention elsewhere. No, you can’t quit your job, but you can thank her for all her selfless deeds — and do your share around the house.
Your Emotional Withdrawal
Women are emotional beings. Not only do they need physical support, but they also need emotional support. Once you retreat from the relationship, she sees it as a sign that things are through — a breakup is inevitable. So, she’s not really cheating, she’s moving on. To avoid this, be present in the relationship. Yes, that means sharing your icky feelings, but it’s better than the alternative, right?
Sex can become monotonous if you let it — the same position; the same setting; the same person. An affair adds adventure and gets her adrenalin flowing. To avoid routine, avoid repetition. Sweep her away for the weekend, make out at the movies, kiss her for no reason at all… The unexpected adds excitement.
Instead of breaking up with you, she cheats on you. That way she doesn’t have to deal with the broken relationship, which is much harder to fix. An affair is the easy way out — or at least that’s how she sees it. That’s another reason communication is key. Let her know that she can talk to you about anything and that you love her enough to work through any bumps in the relationship road.
Revenge For Your Cheating
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Because you cheated, she wants to get back at you and give you a dose of your own medicine. Cheating is her vengeance, her chance to even the playing field. No, you can’t undo your indiscretion, but you can ask for her forgiveness, assure her it will never happen again and suggest couples therapy to help you get through this tough time.
I found these pretty interesting and thought id give you men out there a little heads up of how to keep the spark in your relationship so your woman dont cheat on you!
So you all probably think I am crazy for writing this or it may be to much for those of you who cant handle sex talk but I am going to do it anyway because if you are smart enough you will read and appreciate what you have learned! Now we all know that men are suckers for blowjobs thats not even a question to ask! The reason a man loves a blowjob is because your mouth feels like a vagina with a brain! So please read on for your below the belt guide to giving him some smart lip service! If you have never seen a grown man melt TRUST me you will!
1. DONT BE SCARED!
2. Be enthusiastic what really gets him going is knowing that you want his penis in your mouth! Spend more than 10 minutes down there it takes a man longer than a boiled egg to get off!
3. Never force a penis down once hes up! Putting downward pressure on his erect penis can strain the suspensory ligaments! Thats a no no. As a matter of fact let me give you some positions that will help you avoid this happening.
CALL GIRL, 69, or LAY DOWN! Laying down can go both ways! lol
4. Cover your teeth with your lips dont treat his penis like a ear of corn and DONT play rough unless he likes it rough!
5. Start slobbering! The wetter the better if you have to keep some water by you incase you get dry mouth.
6. Dont think giving a blowjob is like soccer and that you dont have to use your hands! Play with it most men enjoy the extra stimulation! Make sure your hand is not dry either you dont want to give him carpet burn.
7. With your mouth around his penis tickle his balls with one hand using your other hand to scratch his inner thighs.
8. Use good tasting lubes! Bring out the whipped cream, chocolte syrup, honey, ice cream you know what I mean you will enjoy pleasing your man if your tasting things you like.
9. Ball play! Put his balls in your mouth suck hum a lil tune and twirl your tongue!
10. Breath through your nose a blow job doesnt mean to literally blow haha he doesnt need to feel the air come from your mouth.
11. Try the taoist twist go shallow for nine bobs and deep on the tenth and mix it up.
12. Use your tongue to do the alphabet on his wee-wee!
13. Like i said men are visual creatures leave the light on so he can see the action.
14. Suck on a breath mint to give him a tingle sensation.
Spit or Swallow???
SWALLOW! WHY? because its low calorie and has nutrients, the vitamin e will make your skin glow and unlike spitting you can surprise him just about anywhere!
If you want to swallow without gagging, making faces or saying “yuck” check his diet too much fast food will give him a pungent taste, if hes had to much to drink as far as alcohol or coffee it may give a bad taste in your mouth.
When he is going to cum aim his penis at your cheek instead of straight back to your throat.
To Avoid gagging, dont do anything when it comes out just let it sit in your mouth before swallowing.
If your not the swallowing type of girl finish him off by hand and lick him after he cums or just get on top of him and ride him.
Remember it takes two to tango theres things he can do to you while you are pleasing him use your mind and get wild!
Now all these tips are based on my reading of the book HOW TO GIVE A MIND-BLOWING BJ by LISA SUSSMAN.